The Courtship Game

There was a time when young girls were taught to be reserved - to keep a tight reign on their impulses.  Especially when it came to matters of the heart. They would never have asked a boy for a date, or even have made the first telephone call But much of that has changed.

I'm Dr. James Dobson with Focus on the Family.

The sexual revolution of the past twenty years has had a dramatic effect on the way the courtship game is played. Boys have traditionally been the initiators and girls were quite content to be the responders. But what we're seeing now is a new sexual aggressiveness among females that has many parents worried.

Some girls are so bold with their offers of sexual favors and with their hard charging approach that males are often intimidated and anxious to escape all that fire power.

The male ego is constructed in such a way, in fact, that many men need to be in hot pursuit, and not in general retreat. Even in this day when the old restrictions and taboos for women have fallen away, I believe it's still appropriate for parents to teach their girls a certain reserve - a certain self-respect when it comes to romantic relationships, especially during the awkward experiences of early adolescence.

It may be difficult for a girl to pull in her horns a bit, but she'll be more successful and less vulnerable by attracting the object of her affection rather than trying to run him down. This is Dr. James Dobson for Focus on the Family.

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