Someone said, "If mamma ain't happy, ain't nobody happy". I'm Dr. James Dobson with Focus on the Family.

One thing that men need to understand is that, generally, women tend to care more about the home and everything in it than they do. It's certainly true in my house. Let me give you an example: A few years ago my wife and I hired a plummer to install a gas barbecue unit in the backyard and then we left for the day. When we returned, we both observed that the barbecue was mounted about eight inches too high. Shirley and I stood looking at the appliance and our reactions were quite different. I said, "Yes, it's true. The plummer made a mistake. The barbecue unit is a bit too high. By the way, what are we going to do for dinner tonight?" But Shirley reacted a little more emphatically. She said, "I don't think I can stand that thing sticking up in the air like that." 

Now I could have lived the rest of my life without ever thinking about that barbecue unit, but to Shirley it was a big deal.Why? Because to a man a home is a place where he can relax and kick off his shoes and be himself. To a woman, especially a homemaker, the house is an extension of herself. She expressed her individuality and her personality through it. That's why a husband would be wise to recognize this differing perspective and to remount the barbecue unit if that's what it takes. I'm Dr. James Dobson for Focus on the Family.

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