You talk and talk, but he just doesn't seem to get the point. Have you ever felt that happening? Maybe it's time to try a new way of explaining how you feel. I'm Dr. James Dobson with Focus on the Family.

One very effective way to communicate your feelings is to paint a word picture. My good friend, Gary Smalley, told me how one such word picture actually changed the lives of a married couple that he knows.

The wife was feeling distressed because her husband would come home from work and clam up. She told her husband a story about a man who goes out to breakfast with some good friends. He eats a big breakfast and then he gathers some of the crumbs and throws them into a bag. Then he goes to lunch with some other friends, eats a big steak, and again throws a couple of crumbs into a bag. Then when he walks into the door at night, he hands his wife the little bag of crumbs. His wife told him, "That's what it feels like you're doing.

All day long the children and I wait to talk with you, but do you know what happens? You don't share yourself with us. You come home from being out all day, and you hand us a doggie bag of leftovers." The husband said hearing it put this way was like being hit by a two-by-four. He apologized and began to work on opening himself to his wife and family.

Word pictures. They are far more effective than a tornado of hostile comments. This is Dr. James Dobson for Focus on the Family.

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