Dating Your Mate

Many marriages following the honeymoon lose the wind in their romantic sails, and wallow in the doldrums for months and even years.

I'm Dr. James Dobson with Focus on the Family.

Sailors in the days of wooden ships and sails feared pirates and storms. But their greatest fear was that their ship might encounter the doldrums.

The doldrums was an area of the ocean near the equator abounding in calms and light shifting winds. It meant almost certain death for the entire crew of sailors. The ship's food and water would often run out as it wandered aimlessly for days and even weeks, waiting for a strong breeze to blow them back on course.

Well, marriages that were once exciting and loving can also get caught in the romantice doldrums, causing a slow and painful death to the relationship.

Author Doug Fields in his book Creative Romance writes, "Dating and romancing your spouse can change those patterns, and can be a lot of fun. There's no quick fix to a sour marriage, of course, but lay aside the excuses and begin to date your sweetheart again." Allow new breezes to fill the sails of your relationship. It'll take a conscious effort, but be creative.

How about breakfast in bed? A kiss in the rain? Or re-reading those old love letters again? The honeymoon need not be a one-time experience.

This is Dr. James Dobson for Focus on the Family.

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