Marital Bliss

Most of us have heard that five out of every ten marriages end in divorce. But have you ever wondered what happens to the other five?

Now it would be nice to think that couples who don't divorce always live happily ever after, and they just kind of sail blissfully into the sunset. But sadly, that's not the case. According to research by Dr. John Cuber, only one in ten marriages ever attains true intimacy in the relationship. By intimacy, we're referring to that mystical bond of friendship, commitment, and understanding that just almost defies explanation. I'm convinced that the human spirit craves this unconditional love. When we don't find it, we experience a kind of soul hunger which can lead to depression and despair. I'm also certain that most couples expect to find intimacy in marriage, yet many are disappointed. Now it doesn't have to be that way. If you're one who longs to attain intimacy with your spouse, set out deliberately to build it. Talk about your concerns and needs. What is it that's kept you from growing closer as a couple? Commit to open communication and honesty. Look for ways to show your love daily. Start touching each other in a way that communicates love and concern and approval, and above all, treat each other with respect and dignity.

With a little effort you can beat the odds and enjoy a life-long love. With Focus on the Family, I'm Dr. James Dobson.

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