Friendships between Women

It's important for men to be concerned about women's emotional needs, especially if a husband and wife are going to live together for forty or fifty years.  It's also important for women to understand that some of their needs simply can't be met by men. 

I'm Dr. James Dobson with Focus on the Family. 

In the book, Anne of Green Gables, there's a wonderful moment where Anne says, "I've dreamed of meeting her all my life, a bosom friend, an intimate friend, you know, one I can confide my inmost soul to."  She expresses a longing that is common to women, but not so much so to men. 

The need for intimate friendship.  I think this is a key to understanding the widespread sense of loss and depression among women today. 

A hundred years ago women cooked and canned together; they washed clothes and they quilted together.  They helped with the babies.  There was a sense of camaraderie, and love and partnership. 

In our modern, mobile world, that kind of intimacy is difficult to achieve.  I believe one of the remedies for depression in women is to work hard at building a network of female friends.  Meet together for support groups, to care for each other. 

When a friend is hurting, reach out to her.  Take the risks that come with close friendship.  Our society seems to mitigate against these intimate relationships. 

The women who do link emotionally with other people, experience a deeper sense of their own self-worth.  This is Dr. James Dobson for Focus on the Family.

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