Talking About Self-esteem

If self-esteem is something we value for our sons and our daughters maybe it would be helpful to assist them in achieving it.

I'm Dr. James Dobson with Focus on the Family. It seems like every teenager has to come along today and bump his head on the same ol' rock, experiencing those terrible feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. To help kids minimize that experience, I've found it beneficial to talk to them about confidence long before adolescence has arrived. For example, when a young child meets another boy or girl who's too shy to speak or even look at him, you might say afterwards, "Did you notice that Johnny didn't look at anyone when he spoke? Why do you suppose he seemed so embarrassed when he was talking to us? Do you think he doesn't have much confidence in himself"? As the elementary years unfold, you can talk openly about feelings of low self-worth, and how they translate into action. For example, when someone misbehaves in school you might ask your child about it. "Did you notice how silly David acted in class this morning? He was trying hard to make everyone pay attention to him, wasn't he? Do you have any idea why he needs to be noticed every minute of the day? Maybe it's because David doesn't like himself very much." When we train our children in this way - to see others in a truer light, while preserving their own dignity and sense of worth, we're laying a foundation for their own self-confidence during the inevitable storms of adolescence. This is Dr. James Dobson for Focus on the Family.

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