A Father's P.R. Agent: Mom

In the typical American family today, is Dad thought of as a hero or a bum? Believe it or not, the answer may depend on what Mom thinks.

I'm Dr. James Dobson with Focus on the Family.

I saw this maternal influence powerfully expressed in a book called, Fathers and Sons, by Lewis Yablonsky.

He told about growing up in a Yiddish home, and sitting around the dinner table listening to his mother say things like, "Look at your father! His shoulders are bent down; he's a failure. He doesn't have the courage to get a better job or make more money. He's a beaten man."

Yablonsky's father never defended himself. He just kept staring at his plate. As a result, his three sons grew up believing their father really was a wimp. They never noticed his virtues or the fact that he did indeed work hard for a living.

Yablonsky concluded with this statement, "My overall research clearly supports that the mother is the basic filter and has enormous significance on the father-son relationship."

I strongly agree.

How much better for a wife to praise her husband; to point out his strengths; to position him in the children's eyes as someone with courage and principle. Mom's gonna need the influence of a strong man in the lives of her children. She would do well to contribute to that masculine leadership.

I'm Dr. James Dobson for Focus on the Family.

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