Parents offering every advantage

Parents want to offer their children every advantage. But a few disadvantages may not hurt either.

I'm Dr. James Dobson with Focus on the Family. 

Personal defeat, feelings of inferiority, or handicaps of one kind or another can either paralyze a person, or drive them toward success and achievement. In fact one famous study reviewed the home backgrounds of four hundred highly successful people - people whose names you would recognise. Surprisingly, three-quarters of them came from troubled, dysfunctional families, and fully twenty-five percent had physical handicaps.

Not everyone who goes through difficulty will react this positively, of course. But what set these individuals apart was their ability to compensate. Refusing to drown in a sea of inferiority, they said to themselves, "I can achieve adequacy through success if I work at it." Apparently, the stresses they experienced gave them the motivation to rise above the limitations and heartaches that they experienced.

Since we can't insulate our children from adversity, they least we can do as parents is help them make the most of it. We can motivate and equip them to compensate by creating opportunities for them to seek out and develop their strengths. And the time to do that is during those middle years of childhood before the storms of adolescence set it.

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