Dating With A Purpose

Here at Focus on the Family, we have an outreach to singles called Boundless, and for years, these young men and women have told us they're confused about dating.

Generally, the problem is the boundaries between friendship and romance aren't clear so singles hang on too long to relationships that are going nowhere. So today, let's bring a little clarity to the process.

Going on a date is about friendship. It's enjoying someone's company with the understanding that there's nothing exclusive or romantic between you. It's an evening out to dinner, a movie or a cup of coffee because you're friends - nothing more.

Exclusive dating is completely different. It's committing to one person and moving a relationship toward marriage. It's during this time you have to be intentional about determining whether or not this is really the person you want to be married to. If not, you have to be willing to move on.

The trouble comes when singles treat friendship in the same way as an exclusive relationship or vice versa. Sooner or later, one person gets romantically hooked and spends months or maybe even years hanging on to the relationship, hoping the other person will want to get married.

So, if you're dating, keep the boundaries between friendship and exclusive dating crystal clear. You need that kind of focus to keep you from getting stuck in a relationship that's going nowhere. If you're single, drop by

For Focus on the Family, I'm Jim Daly.

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