Time For Kids

You know, there are times in every family when rules and restrictions must be imposed, even during the teen years. But let me make this point emphatically: Rules without relationship lead to rebellion.

I'm Dr. James Dobson for Focus on the Family.

Family psychologist and author Dr. Kevin Leman tells of the time he had to leave on a trip just a day or two before Valentine's Day. His wife, Sandy, remarked on the phone that their teen age daughter had received a letter of acceptance from the college she wanted to attend. Dr. Leman decided that this even was worth some extra attention. He called a florist and he ordered a dozen pink sweetheart roses for his daughter.

The next evening when he called home, his daughter got on the phone to thank him from the bottom of her heart.

She said, “When I saw the deliveryman at the door, I knew the flowers had to be for Mom, on Valentine's Day. But then I saw my own name on them and I thought, my goodness, they must be from my boyfriend. But, Daddy, they were from you. And that's even better.”

Dr. Leman is a very wise man. If you have teens, take the time to build relationships in every way you can: Go to their games, their school open-houses. And you might think about flowers for your daughters. That expression of love will come back to you in a hundred ways, especially the next time you have to say no to a disappointed teen. I'm Dr. James Dobson for Focus on the Family.

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