Q&A: Finding positive male role models for children

Q: As a single mother whose children are approaching puberty, I’m becoming acutely aware of their need for positive male role models. Where can I go to find this kind of input?

A: You’re right—this is extremely important!

One of the best places you can look for male input is your own extended family. Do your children have a good relationship with your father? If you believe he’s a positive role model, ask your dad if he’d be willing to spend time with them. If he lives nearby, you could arrange for them to spend one weekend a month at their grandparents’ house. If grandpa lives far away, send them for an extended stay during school vacations.

Another good resource is your neighbourhood. Ask around if there’s a trustworthy older couple in the community who might be willing to act as “surrogate grandparents” for your family.

Other options could include a trusted school teacher or coach. You’ll need to screen them to ensure they’re reputable and that their values align with yours, of course.

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