Q: Do you have any advice for a new mum who’s leaving a high-profile career to devote herself to parenting and managing a home full-time? What can I do to make this change as smooth as possible for me and my family?
A: Congratulations on this exciting new venture! Moulding little lives is a calling of great worth. Having made the courageous decision to go “all in,” here are a few tips to help ease the transition:
- Prepare, prepare, prepare. Read as much as you can on child development and the relationship between mothers and children. This is particularly important for women who may have had a difficult childhood or a strained relationship with their own mothers.
- Talk to other women who have made the transition from full-time work to full-time mum. There are women out there who need you as much as you need them. Get to know them and ask them about their struggles and their successes. You’ll be surprised at the wisdom you can glean from the experiences of others.
- Develop a social support network. Community- and religious-based mother-child programs can give stay-at-home mums the support they need.
- Communicate clearly with your spouse about roles and expectations. Husbands of stay-at-home mothers play a crucial role besides that of being the primary breadwinner. Sit down with your husband and discuss how the situation in your home is likely to change once you leave the workplace. Make sure that the two of you are on the same page. And take time to nurture your “couple relationship” and keep the flame of romance alive.
Remember to take things one day at a time. What works for someone else might not work for you. But it’s not about perfection – it’s about loving, laughing, and learning together as you build your family.
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